Have you ever made a careless error at work?Â Then berated yourself for the error with â€œHow stupid.â€ Dropped a container of blueberries sending them scattering across the kitchen floor?Â Immediately chastising yourself by saying â€œYou are so stupidâ€! Been passed over for a job promotion and said to yourself, I knew I wouldnâ€™t get it.Â I just donâ€™t have what it takes to succeedâ€?
We humans persistently talk to ourselves..and we have been receiving information from others through our environment and our experiences since the beginning of life.Â And where is that information recorded?Â In our brain.Â The human brain does not decipher truth or intent.Â It takes what it is given.Â If the brain receives a message often enough, itÂ believes it to be truth.Â These â€œtruthsâ€, perceptions, interpretations, judgments, beliefs then determine how we view ourselves, our world, and others in it.Â They become our core beliefs.Â Accurate or not, we believe them to be truth.
Our discontent is the result of hanging on to negative beliefsâ€¦sabotaging confidence in self and others, disrupting harmony in relationships, and producing harmful (negative) energy.Â With enough frequency, negative thoughts and statements (whether you say them to yourself or they come from history and experiences) leave you feeling upset, angry, sad, etc.Â Â This leads to feelings and behaviors that, too, are negative or unsatisfying.Â The problem is – most of us are not aware that we harbor negative beliefs. Â We tellÂ ourselves â€œif I believe this so strongly and I think it all the time, it must be true.â€Â Itâ€™s time to challenge these thoughts, because
THOUGHTSâ€¦â€¦DETERMINE FEELINGSâ€¦..DETERMINE BEHAVIOR
This, simply put, defines the cognitive/behavioral approach to change.Â Butâ€¦.how does one do this?
To re-program the brain to think differently, such thoughts and statements must be replaced with positive, calm or rational thoughts.Â Negative thoughts cannot be wished â€¦or willed away.Â Saying â€œI just wonâ€™t think about itâ€ doesnâ€™t workÂ either.
Again, the brain believes what it is consistently taught!!!!!Â Your feelings and behaviors respond to the beliefs, or commands, of your brain just as your muscles respond to the brainâ€™s message.Â This is true in all cases where the brain and body are healthy; e.g. undamaged neurologically or biologically.
Start to develop your own list of positive affirmations.
How do you want to feel about yourself (your â€œidealâ€œ self).Â Â It is important to state your affirmations in the here-and-now; e.g. â€œI am confidentâ€, â€œI respect othersâ€, â€œI am lovable.â€Â It is imperative to avoid negative words (â€œI am notâ€ or â€œI will notâ€ or â€œNeverâ€ â€“ the brain does not recognize â€œNotâ€).Â Now. Write Them Down.Â You donâ€™t necessarily have to believe them yet.Â Let your brain do its work.Â Remember, many of us have a lot of repair work to do from years of negative input.
Place your affirmations in conspicuous places and repeat them as many times a day as possible.Â The four transitional periods of the day are most important: 1.on waking, 2.leaving for work/school/activites,3. returning home, 4.at bedtime.